Monday, August 22, 2016

Friends and The Risks of Casual Depth

The Commodification of Friendship

C.S. Lewis once said of friendship, that it is, “like philosophy, like art, like the universe itself …has no survival value; rather it is one of those things which give value to survival.” But the poetic beauty of this sentiment crumbles into untruth for anyone who has ever been encouraged out of despair by the persistent kindness of a friend, or whose happiness has been bolstered and protected by a friend’s warm willingness to stand firm at your side.




Illustration by Maurice Sendak

I often puzzle over the nature and structure of friendship. — its function indispensable to our survival. Over the last few years of texting and the subsequent subtle estrangement of friends in general, I find that everyone is redefining communication and the definition of labels for those people who currently take up space-time in out lives ...or our imaginations. I found myself concerned with the desire and overt willingness to commodify the noncommodifiable “friend” in our culture. We often define “friends” as peers we barely know beyond the shallow pools of professional connection or people we see at bars civic events or with whom we share a class or the occasional coffee. Often we, especially young people make the mistake mistaking/mislabeling admiration for friendship taking friendship down yet another notch that would have Emerson's exact definition pitching fits for the fraud that is being perpetrated across a large swath of our culture in America today.

American culture has betrayed and perpetrated a nasty little fraud upon the canonized and enduring meaning of friendship by overusing the word if not completely redefining the word by overextending its definition between the boundaries of acquaintanceship and friendship in the proper Aristotelian sense. Google it for your damn self.

To envision a conception of friendship as concentric circles of human connection, intimacy, and emotional truthfulness, each larger circle a necessary but insufficient condition for the smaller circle it embraces. We are living our lives in widening circles. Some of us imagining an artificial circle beyond acquaintance into a kind of nothingness where we assign a value to virtually nothing.



Within the endless mix of strangers, humans have historically identified and strictly categorized people they know and like in layers of emotional, spiritual and intellectual values that branch out into many complex branches of familiarity that give us a true and real impression of a person. When we assign a value to others with limited or no contact time the potential for meaningful impressions or settled sense of verified personhood is impossible. When we give value to this new definition of "friendship" to those with whom we have not spent much time we are firmly grounded in delusion and the fantasy of friendship. Indeed "being in love with love" as a parallel metaphor, the person is not our friend. Some cast this imagining around people with whom they have spent no time at all. In essence, we have a new cultural psychological epidemic, a mass delusion of social media.

Even closer to the core is the kindred spirit — a person whose values are closely akin to our own, one who is animated by similar core principles and stands for a sufficient number of the same things we ourselves stand for in the world. These are the magnifiers of spirit to whom we are bound by mutual goodwill, sympathy, and respect, but we infer this resonance from one another’s polished public selves — our ideal selves — rather than from intimate knowledge of one another’s interior lives, personal struggles, inner contradictions, and most vulnerable crevices of character.

Some kindred spirits become friends in the fullest sense — people with whom we are willing to share, not without embarrassment but without fear of judgment, our gravest imperfections and the most anguishing instances of falling short of our own ideals and values. The concentrating and consecrating force that transmutes a kinship of spirit into a friendship is emotional and psychological intimacy. A friend is a person before whom we can strip our ideal self in order to reveal the real self, vulnerable and imperfect, and yet trust that it wouldn’t diminish the friend’s admiration and sincere affection for the whole self, comprising both the ideal and the real.

It is important to clarify here that the ideal self is not a counterpoint to the real self in the sense of being inauthentic. Unlike the seeming self, which springs from our impulse for self-display and which serves as a kind of deliberate mask, the ideal self-arises from our authentic values and ideals. Although it represents an aspirational personhood, who we wish to be is invariably part of who we are — even if we aren’t always able to enact those ideals. In this sense, the gap between the ideal self and the real self is not one of insincerity but of human fallibility. The friend is one who embraces both and has a generous patience for the rift between the two. A true friend holds us lovingly accountable to our own ideals, but is also able to forgive, over and over, the ways in which we fall short of them and can assure us that we are more than our stumbles, that we are shaped by them but not defined by them, that we will survive them with our personhood and the friendship intact.

*This article is a rewrite with much added meaning and significant text and grammar changes made to an article writted by Maria Papova

Quick Overview of the Types of Magnesium Supplements and which ones to avoid


The best forms of magnesium

Magnesium citrate -- Magnesium citrate is a more popular magnesium supplement, probably because it is inexpensive and easily absorbed. Since citric acid is a mild laxative, magnesium citrate functions as a constipation aid as well as a magnesium source. It is a great choice for individuals with rectal or colon problems but is unsuitable for those with loose bowel movements.

Magnesium taurate -- Magnesium taurate is the best choice of magnesium supplement for people with cardiovascular issues since it is known to prevent arrhythmias and guard the heart against damage caused by heart attacks. Magnesium taurate is easily absorbed (magnesium and taurine stabilize cell membranes together), and it contains no laxative properties.

Magnesium malate -- Magnesium malate is a fantastic choice for people suffering from fatigue, since malic acid -- a natural fruit acid present in most cells in the body -- is a vital component of enzymes that play a key role in ATP synthesis and energy production. Since the ionic bonds of magnesium and malic acid are easily broken, magnesium malate is also highly soluble.

Magnesium glycinate -- Magnesium glycinate (magnesium bound with glycine, a non-essential amino acid) is one of the most bioavailable and absorbable forms of magnesium, and also the least likely to induce diarrhea. It is the safest option for correcting a long-term deficiency.

Magnesium chloride -- Though magnesium chloride only contains around 12 percent elemental magnesium, it has an impressive absorption rate and is the best form of magnesium to take for detoxing the cells and tissues. Moreover, chloride (not to be confused with chlorine, the toxic gas) aids kidney function and can boost a sluggish metabolism.

Magnesium carbonate -- Magnesium carbonate is another popular, bioavailable form of magnesium that actually turns into magnesium chloride when it mixes with the hydrochloric acid in our stomachs. It is a good choice for people suffering from indigestion and acid reflux since it contains antacid properties.


The less preferred forms of magnesium

Magnesium oxide -- Magnesium oxide is the most common form of magnesium sold in pharmacies, but it is non-chelated and possesses a poor absorption rate compared to those listed above.

Magnesium sulfate -- Magnesium sulfate, also called Epsom salt, is a fantastic constipation aid but an unsafe source of dietary magnesium, since overdosing on it is easy.

Magnesium glutamate and aspartate -- Avoid these two forms of magnesium completely. Glutamic acid and aspartic acid are components of the dangerous artificial sweetener aspartame, and both of them become neurotoxic when unbound to other amino acids.

Friday, August 19, 2016

The Challenge of the Moment - Decisions that Rock

Right now. Did you see it?  What you were doing, thinking or saying just then, a moment ago, when I said - "Right now"? Well, you missed out on a moment of change but fear not there are plenty more to come. Releasing the cultural brain freeze of lock-step hypnosis to living in the river of change is an exciting new habit of personal growth by experimenting with probable futures at any time you want. And if you can get interested in why this is so exciting you end up a big winner.
HOW TO CHALLENGE YOURSELF RIGHT NOW!
Think! For the next hour, try to challenge yourself in whatever you are currently doing. If you are at a public event go up to random people and try to start a conversation. If you are on the phone with a client try to listen better and use better logic and better diction to communicate a more thoughtful idea or solution. And if you are working out, go for more sets and reps than you might normally do.
If you make it fun you won't stop and will consciously shift reality to a bright future.
  • Self Confidence: If you can beat a challenge, or attempt one, every day it makes you feel like you are making progress in life.
  • “Limits” won’t hold you back anymore. Limitations are often only set by ourselves or people that have never attempted to break those limits.
  • Every day is filled with new experiences for you. The most common regret people have is that they didn’t do something because they were afraid to do it. While challenging yourself means to be afraid for a while afterwards you had made something shift by forcing a small moment of your reality into a better probability by conscious force of will.  The meaning of this must not be missed.  To quell denial and avoidance is to eliminate the grinding wheels of constant regret for things that might have been. When we break the pattern of excuse-making and guilt we are guaranteed authentic personal growth and we experience empowerment as never before. It's always a surprise when life reflects rewards for good high integrity work back to us.
  • Others will view you with respect and awe.  When you challenging yourself successfully you will find others filled with a mixture of jealousy, admiration, respect, anger, inspiration, awe, hate, fear, and excitement towards you. All because you are doing what they are too afraid to do and that gets them pissed off at themselves immensely.
  • You will feel more in control of your life. If you can challenge yourself, beat old limits and drop fear guilt and shame from your life, you will have every reason to be in control. After all: There is nothing to contest it anymore.
When you do these challenges be sure to do it no matter what. If you wimp out as soon as the alarm rings, or you make an excuse why you cannot challenge yourself right now, your life will not change. It only works if it is outside your comfort zone. But don't let that stop you. Anesthetize fear with combative phrases like "this is a piece of cake!" or "Nothing to it!" or get "Zen" in your own handy way ...and go for it. Yes, it does require you to step outside your comfort zone. But you will feel the difference at the end of every day, and a significant change in your life after just one week.
Try it for thirty days. The difference is astounding. 

From Wimp to Braveheart - It's All in the Moment

Right now. Did you see it?  What you were doing just now when I said - "Right now"? Well, you missed out on a moment of possible change but fear not there are plenty more opportunities to come. Releasing the cultural brain freeze of lock-step hypnosis and living in the river of change is an exciting new trend in personal growth. When we consciously challenge ourselves in the present we design our future. To find out why this is so exciting, stick around you might end up a big winner.
HOW TO CHALLENGE YOURSELF RIGHT NOW!
For the next hour, I try to challenge yourself in whatever you are currently doing. If you are at a public event go up to random people and try to start a conversation. If you are on the phone with a client try to listen better and use better logic and better diction to communicate a better idea or solution. And if you are working out, go for more sets and reps than you might normally do. Do something out of character or scary as often as possible to break the back of boredom sadness and the many forms of subtle depression that plagues our culture. Give value to anxiety by sparking your moments with new challenges rather than expending energy denying terminal regret. It takes some practice to master but coming up with new fun ways to handle moment to moment life. This is to wake up to possibility and to take the wheel to a bright future! If that is not fun what is?
If you make it fun you won't stop and will consciously shift reality to a bright future.
  • Self Confidence: If you can beat a challenge, or attempt one, every day it makes you feel like you are making progress in life.
  • “Limits” won’t hold you back anymore. Limitations are often only set by ourselves or people that have never attempted to break those limits.
  • Every day is filled with new experiences for you. The most common regret people have is that they didn’t do something because they were afraid to do it. While challenging yourself means to be afraid for a while afterwards you had made something shift by forcing a small moment of your reality into a better probability by conscious force of will.  The meaning of this must not be missed.  To quell denial and avoidance is to eliminate the grinding wheels of constant regret for things that might have been. When we break the pattern of excuse-making we are guaranteed authentic personal growth and we experience empowerment as never before. It's always a surprise when life reflects rewards for good high integrity work back to us.
  • Others will view you with respect and awe.  When you challenging yourself successfully you will find others filled with a mixture of jealousy, admiration, respect, anger, inspiration, awe, hate, fear, and excitement towards you. All because you are doing what they are too afraid to do and that gets them pissed off at themselves immensely.
  • You will feel more in control of your life. If you can challenge yourself, beat old limits and drop fear from your life, you will have every reason to be in control. After all: There is nothing to contest it anymore.
When you do these challenges be sure to do it no matter what. If you wimp out as soon as the alarm rings, or you make an excuse why you cannot challenge yourself right now, your life will not change. It only works if it is outside your comfort zone. But don't let that stop you. Anesthetize fear with combative phrases like "this is a piece of cake!" or "Nothing to it!" or get "Zen" in your own handy way ...and go for it. Yes, it does require you to step outside your comfort zone. But you will feel the difference at the end of every day, and a significant change in your life after just one week.
Try it for thirty days. The difference is astounding. 

Monday, August 15, 2016

A Recent Experiment "The Week I Stopped Meditating"



I completed an experiment today. Last week I had been answering a lot of questions from people who had never experienced Transcendental Meditation. One smart gal wanted to know what it was like to practice for a long time, then stop for awhile, and then start again. I told her I had done this several times but that I would stop for a week and let her know. I did it ...and "let me tell you ...it was PAINFUL!" I replied, not meditating for a week was just STRANGE. I got grouchy, sad depressed confused and I felt like I was not living my life. I felt plastic forced and socially inept by the fourth day. I had little genuine interest in my work or any sincere interest in the people around me. I felt as though I was just going through the motions. Mostly I felt old and TIRED. I heard from my YouTube channel subscribers "we do this (going through the motions) all the time - and that it is the way our lives have been for decades!" And these are just the people who are AWARE of that fact. Others display it so obviously that you can read it on their faces. You know them. Everyone does.

Once I sat down to meditate for 20 minutes today I found myself pulled into the meditation like gravity pulling a meteor to earth. I was like going down in an elevator and somebody cut the cable... completely out cold for twenty-four minutes with no sense of time for at least 15 minutes during which the pleasure of relief pervaded every cell of my being. It was the weight of the world coming off my shoulders, all stress released all at once and when I came out of meditation it was no longer the reality I knew just moments before. It was like being a new person or a person who experienced a massive shift. I ate lunch afterward and the food tasted five times better than a day ago. The same dish! Colors appeared brighter and my vision was much better. Gratitude came easily and selfish thoughts from before were gone - mostly because I was no longer in psychic PAIN! And I was no longer as tired and I did not feel old.

I can not tell you that you will have the same experience as me, but after 43 years of meditation, I can say it's highly unlikely you won't. There is something very special about the T.M. technique that sets it apart from other forms of meditation. It can't fix everything, but it takes a big ass bite out of psychic and emotional pain. And the body rests very deeply.

Yesterday I called the local T.M. Center in Mission Valley. The cost to learn the technique is down to $950 and if two people go to learn at the same time the second person is like $800. For financially challenged people there is a very generous program to drastically reduce the cost. I'm delighted by these new rates and believe the T.M. movement is gaining new momentum and life now that it is back on track in too many ways to discuss here. If you have any questions please email me. monogram1@gmail.com.

A Recent Experiment "The Week I Stopped Meditating"

I completed an experiment today. Last week I had been answering a lot of questions from people who had never experienced Transcendental Meditation. One smart gal wanted to know what it was like to practice for a long time, then stop for awhile, and then start again. I told her I had done this several times but that I would stop for a week and let her know. I did it ...and "let me tell you ...it was PAINFUL!" I replied, not meditating for a week was just STRANGE. I got grouchy, sad depressed confused and I felt like I was not living my life. I felt plastic forced and socially inept by the fourth day. I had little genuine interest in my work or any sincere interest in the people around me. I felt as though I was just going through the motions. Mostly I felt old and TIRED. I heard from my YouTube channel subscribers "we do this (going through the motions) all the time - and that it is the way our lives have been for decades!" And these are just the people who are AWARE of that fact. Others display it so obviously that you can read it on their faces. You know them. Everyone does.

Once I sat down to meditate for 20 minutes today I found myself pulled into the meditation like gravity pulling a meteor to earth. I was like going down in an elevator and somebody cut the cable... completely out cold for twenty-four minutes with no sense of time for at least 15 minutes during which the pleasure of relief pervaded every cell of my being. It was the weight of the world coming off my shoulders, all stress released all at once and when I came out of meditation it was no longer the reality I knew just moments before. It was like being a new person or a person who experienced a massive shift. I ate lunch afterwords and the food tasted five times better than a day ago. The same dish! Colors appeared brighter and my vision was much better. Gratitude came easily and selfish thoughts from before were gone - mostly because I was no longer in psychic PAIN! And I was no longer as tired and I did not feel old.

I can not tell you that you will have the same experience as me, but after 43 years of meditation, I can say it's highly unlikely you won't. There is something very special about the T.M. technique that sets it apart from other forms of meditation. It can't fix everything, but it takes a big ass bite out of psychic and emotional pain. And the body rests very deeply.

Yesterday I called the local T.M. Center in Mission Valley. The cost to learn the technique is down to $950 and if two people go to learn at the same time the second person is like $800. For financially challenged people there is a very generous program to drastically reduce the cost. I'm delighted by these new rates and believe the T.M. movement is gaining new momentum and life now that it is back on track in too many ways to discuss here. If you have any questions please email me. monogram1@gmail.com.I

A Recent Experiment "The Week I Stopped Meditating"


The Great Experiment:

I completed an experiment today. Last week I had been answering a lot of questions from people who had never experienced Transcendental Meditation. One smart gal wanted to know what it was like to practice for a long time, then stop for awhile, and then start again. I told her I had done this several times but that I would stop for a week and let her know. I did it ...and "let me tell you ...it was PAINFUL!" I replied, not meditating for a week was just STRANGE. I got grouchy, sad depressed confused and I felt like I was not living my life. I felt plastic forced and socially inept by the fourth day. I had little genuine interest in my work or any sincere interest in the people around me. I felt as though I was just going through the motions. Mostly I felt old and TIRED. I heard from my YouTube channel subscribers "we do this (going through the motions) all the time - and that it is the way our lives have been for decades!" And these are just the people who are AWARE of that fact. Others display it so obviously that you can read it on their faces. You know them. Everyone does.

Once I sat down to meditate for 20 minutes today I found myself pulled into the meditation like gravity pulling a meteor to earth. I was like going down in an elevator and somebody cut the cable... completely out cold for twenty-four minutes with no sense of time for at least 15 minutes during which the pleasure of relief pervaded every cell of my being. It was the weight of the world coming off my shoulders, all stress released all at once and when I came out of meditation it was no longer the reality I knew just moments before. It was like being a new person or a person who experienced a massive shift. I ate lunch afterward and the food tasted five times better than a day ago. The same dish! Colors appeared brighter and my vision was much better. Gratitude came easily and selfish thoughts from before were gone - mostly because I was no longer in psychic PAIN! And I was no longer as tired and I did not feel old.

I can not tell you that you will have the same experience as me, but after 43 years of meditation, I can say it's highly unlikely you won't. There is something very special about the T.M. technique that sets it apart from other forms of meditation. It can't fix everything, but it takes a big ass bite out of psychic and emotional pain. And the body rests very deeply.

Yesterday I called the local T.M. Center in Mission Valley. The cost to learn the technique is down to $950 and if two people go to learn at the same time the second person is like $800. For financially challenged people there is a very generous program to drastically reduce the cost. I'm delighted by these new rates and believe the T.M. movement is gaining new momentum and life now that it is back on track in too many ways to discuss here. If you have any questions please email me. monogram1@gmail.com.

A Recent Experiment "The Week I Stopped Meditating"


The Great Experiment:

I completed an experiment today. Last week I had been answering a lot of questions from people who had never experienced Transcendental Meditation. One smart gal wanted to know what it was like to practice for a long time, then stop for awhile, and then start again. I told her I had done this several times but that I would stop for a week and let her know. I did it ...and "let me tell you ...it was PAINFUL!" I replied, not meditating for a week was just STRANGE. I got grouchy, sad depressed confused and I felt like I was not living my life. I felt plastic forced and socially inept by the fourth day. I had little genuine interest in my work or any sincere interest in the people around me. I felt as though I was just going through the motions. Mostly I felt old and TIRED. I heard from my YouTube channel subscribers "we do this (going through the motions) all the time - and that it is the way our lives have been for decades!" And these are just the people who are AWARE of that fact. Others display it so obviously that you can read it on their faces. You know them. Everyone does.

Once I sat down to meditate for 20 minutes today I found myself pulled into the meditation like gravity pulling a meteor to earth. I was like going down in an elevator and somebody cut the cable... completely out cold for twenty-four minutes with no sense of time for at least 15 minutes during which the pleasure of relief pervaded every cell of my being. It was the weight of the world coming off my shoulders, all stress released all at once and when I came out of meditation it was no longer the reality I knew just moments before. It was like being a new person or a person who experienced a massive shift. I ate lunch afterwards and the food tasted five times better than a day ago. The same dish! Colors appeared brighter and my vision was much better. Gratitude came easily and selfish thoughts from before were gone - mostly because I was no longer in psychic PAIN! And I was no longer as tired and I did not feel old.

I can not tell you that you will have the same experience as me, but after 43 years of meditation, I can say it's highly unlikely you won't. There is something very special about the T.M. technique that sets it apart from other forms of meditation. It can't fix everything, but it takes a big ass bite out of psychic and emotional pain. And the body rests very deeply.

Yesterday I called the local T.M. Center in Mission Valley. The cost to learn the technique is down to $950 and if two people go to learn at the same time the second person is like $800. For financially challenged people there is a very generous program to drastically reduce the cost. I'm delighted by these new rates and believe the T.M. movement is gaining new momentum and life now that it is back on track in too many ways to discuss here. If you have any questions please email me. monogram1@gmail.com.

Thursday, July 7, 2016

Russian Scientist Photographs the "Soul" Leaving the Body



The Secrets to Intermittent Fasting: (in the process of being edited down for faster assimilation)

Partially edited:  Thank you for your patience.

The Secrets to Intermittent Fasting:

How You Can Stay Healthy, Slow Down the Aging Process, and Have a Lot of Energy
By Malik Johnson
©Copyright 2016 WE CANT BE BEAT LLC

we’ll be looking at the 5:2 fast, the 24 hour Eat Stop Eat Fast
and the Warrior fast

Table of Contents
Chapter 1: An Introduction To Intermittent Fasting:
Chapter 2: The History of Intermittent Fasting: An Ancient Cure That Still Works Today!
Chapter 3: The Classic 5:2 Fast—Eat What You Want For Most Of Your Week And Still See Amazing Results!
Chapter 4: The 24 Hour Fast: “Eat Stop Eat” Your Way To A Better Body, With As Little As One Fast Day!
Chapter 5: The Warrior Fast: Eat Like An Ancient Warrior For An Unbeatable Body And Brain!
Chapter 6: 16/8:The Secret to Unstoppable Weight Loss, Incredible Health And Intense Energy
Chapter 7: Intermittent Fasting—Kiss Diabetes and Blood Glucose Disorders Goodbye!
Chapter 8: The Brain Boost—How Intermittent Fasting Can Help You Improve Your Memory, Think More Clearly, and Protect Your
Brain From Disease And Depression
Chapter 9: Intermittent Fasting: Nature’s Secret To Turning Back The Clock And Aging Backwards!
Chapter 10:The Intermittent Fasting and Exercise Connection: Double Your Weight Loss, Enhance Anti-Aging, Fight Disease, and Sharpen Your Mind With These Simple Tips!
Conclusion: The Takeaway
Recipe Index

Chapter 1: An Introduction To Intermittent
Fasting:
Are you like millions of people out there who’ve tried numerous diets and wellness plans, from
low-calorie, to low-fat and high-carb, from extreme calorie restriction, to eating 6 frequent
meals, and found that despite all of the promises and the supposed “evidence”, each one was
just as ineffective as the last?

Honson H15 Coptis Detoxifying Formula


Wednesday, July 6, 2016

How To Save A Life: Performing the Heimlich Maneuver Properly

Dr. Stephen Dunlop at Hennepin County Medical Center reviews how to administer the maneuver:
• First, assess the situation.
“One of the most important things about choking, in general, is that if someone can cough and can make noise, the best thing to do is to encourage them to keep coughing,” he said. “If they look like they’re struggling, if they stop making noise, or if they start to change color, that would be the time to take action.”
• Tell someone to call 911. Time is of essence in choking emergencies.
• Stand directly behind the person, and let them know what you are doing so as not to increase feelings of panic.
• Take your dominant hand and make a fist. Place the thumb side of the fist halfway between the person’s belly button and sturnum. Then take your other hand and grab your own fist.
• Do firm, inward and upward thrusts with your hand to help dislodge the object that is blocking the person’s airway. Dunlop advises to start with moderate pressure, but if that isn’t working, get more aggressive to expel the food.
• Continue to perform the Heimlich maneuver until the situation is resolved or it changes. For example, if all of a sudden they’re moving air and are coughing again, then stop and let them keep coughing. Or if they become unconscious, lay them down and start chest compressions, he said.
While the Heimlich maneuver is effective, it generally should be avoided on young children and pregnant women, Dunlop said. He recommends using back slaps for kids when it is clear that their airway is blocked and chest compressions, akin to CPR, for pregnant women.
Heimlich invented the abdominal thrusting method for aiding choking victims in the 1970s. Although he has demonstrated it many times over the years — including famously on “The Tonight Show with Johnny Carson” — he never had used it in a real emergency situation until last week.
The 96-year-old surgeon was sitting in the dining room of his Cincinatti senior living complex when he noticed a woman choking. He performed the method on the 87-year-old woman, who coughed up a piece of hamburger.